3MM: Identity, Connection & Stories
06-24-2024
3 MINUTE MONDAYHi friend, I'm bringing my solo live show to Australia this November! Brisbane - Wednesday 6th November at Fortitude Music Hall Presale goes live on Tuesday June 25th at 9am AEST. Get access to presale tickets here. In other news I’m in Nashville for a few days recording, back to Austin for one day, then Charlotte, Gatlinburg, Nashville again for July 4th, New Orleans and Bozeman. Fired up to see some of America without only being under studio lighting the whole time! Anyway, onto what I’ve been thinking about this week… “Identity lags reality by 1-2 years.
There’s a lot of psychological fallout from a rapid change in status.” — Mark Manson
If you’ve lost a ton of weight, or become single after a long relationship, or won a huge contract to play professional sport, or had amazing business success then you might resonate with this. The person the world sees you as, and the person you see yourself as have become very different. Your fears and doubts and inclinations have not changed much, and yet the individual that everyone else expects to turn up is this new version of you. It will take time for your inner world to catch up to the outer one. Ancestrally, the ladder spanning from the highest you could climb to the lowest you could fall had far fewer rungs than it does today. In a tribe of 80 people, there’s not just all that much room for your status to rollercoaster around. In the modern world, there are unlimited degrees of freedom for your status to ascend in one domain or fall in another. Human minds are not prepared for our outward presentation and self-image to be ripped apart from each other so quickly. It makes sense that they take so long to creep back together again. Try to enjoy the rollercoaster as best you can, soon you won’t be able to remember what it was like to be at the bottom. MODERN WISDOMI do a podcast where I pretend to have a British accent. You should subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. This week’s upcoming episodes: Monday. Thursday. Saturday. THINGS I'VE LEARNED1. 1. What feelings are hard for you to communicate? How can I make it easier? 2. What is a compromise you've had to make since meeting me? 3. What was the most recent experience that made you feel closer to me? 2. In controlled experiments, researchers documented a pronounced story-statistic gap in memory: The average impact of statistics on beliefs fades by 73% over the course of a day. The impact of a story fades by only 32%. So in short, people's beliefs are more durably impacted by stories than by statistics. Huge implications for how voters’ beliefs can be more easily swayed during the upcoming elections. 3. “If starting a business tears your relationships apart, makes you bitter or frustrated with people—then it doesn’t matter how much money it makes or external praise it receives. That's not success.” — Ryan Holiday LIFE HACKClip your curtains together in hotel rooms. I like a dark bedroom. That gap between curtains in hotel rooms kills me, especially if I’m running low on sleep which usually happens on the road. Grab two of the trouser hangers with the clips on from the wardrobe and pin those suckers together. One at the top and one at the bottom usually does it. Total lifesaver. Big love, Try my productivity drink Neutonic. PS |